ScreenStrong Families

Why Your Middle Schooler Doesn’t Need a Smartphone for Christmas (#220)

Melanie Hempe

The holidays are here, and many parents are contemplating whether to gift their middle schoolers a smartphone. In this episode, Melanie and Amy, who together have raised eight middle schoolers, dive into why smartphones are the most regretted parenting gift. They explore the science behind middle school brain development, the risks of increased dependence and peer pressure, and the long-term effects on social skills and mental health.

Learn why phones should never be given as gifts, how they can lead to stress and arguments, and practical alternatives that will spark joy without the screen-time battles. Plus, Amy and Melanie share ideas for big-ticket, non-tech gifts that will light up your child’s Christmas morning while encouraging creativity, connection, and growth.

If you’ve already purchased a phone, don’t worry—there’s still time to make a better choice! Tune in for advice, encouragement, and actionable tips to navigate this challenging decision and keep your holidays ScreenStrong.

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Production Team:

  • Host: Melanie Hempe
  • Producer & Audio Editor: Olivia Kernekin

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